Anjali Singh says:

Beautiful message ma’am!! ‘Urja Aparimit k Dharak hain Hum’ contains the whole message.
Warm Regards!!🌹🙏🙏🌹

Yash says:

You are such a kind and enlightened soul. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, vision with us 🙏🏻🙏🏻.

Sachin Thukral says:

So…the wait is finally over, as once again, there is some food for thought that your podcast message has provided. Yet again, you have touched upon a very significant aspect of our life, and that is, making decisions.
Once again, the message reflects your deep thoughts, which are corroborated sufficiently with relevant and enriching quotes.
At the outset you highlighted the importance of making decisions, and our ability to make decisions and standing on them, being accountable for them.
Yet, there are instances when we aren’t mature enough to take decisions but we have no other option but to make one.
Yet, the core thing is, our happiness lies in understanding ourselves; the decisions we make our just a manifestation of what we believe, what we want, to what extent we love and understand ourselves. Sometimes, we aren’t that mature to take decisions, as I have already pointed out; yet, we get to make one.

This message focuses on the aspect of making ‘well-informed’ decision in the first part of the podcast. And, to ‘assess’ our decisions after a while to ensure we ‘balance’ the things.
Well, these things don’t quite happen at times. The decisions are decisions…and they are ours, that we embrace, and at times, there is no going back.
You quoted Frost, and I would like to quote some lines from the same poem,

“Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.”

It is too difficult at times to ‘balance’ the things.
And, why should a mortal be sensible enough to ‘balance’ things; why not ‘fall?’- taste defeat. As Emily Dickinson says,

“Success is counted sweetest
By those who never succeed.”

And, as you said, Faustus realized that he had made the wrong decisions as he said
“My blood congeals and I can write no more.”

But, he isn’t able to change anything then, the decision taken, is taken.

Yet, before he died, he understood what was good and bad for him , as he says
“Oh, though bewitching fiend, ‘t was thy temptation that
hath robb’d me of eternal happiness.”

Very few mortals have such self-realization.

And, regarding the critics you quoted,
‘सूरज बन न चाहते थे ना
देख लिया बन के
अब चलो”

And the other one
Rana Gannauri
“अब मुझे थोड़ी सी ग़फ़लत से भी डर लगता है
आँख लगती है कि दीवार से सर लगता है

I think Alexander Pope’s quote is the answer to them

Damn with faint praise, assent with civil leer,
And without sneering, teach the rest to sneer;
Willing to wound, and yet afraid to strike,
Just hint a fault, and hesitate dislike.
That is, all I wanted to say is, once a decision is made, one should stand on it.
Yes, Shakespeare’s characters had that ‘tragic flaw’ – the internal imperfection but their downfall was because of their own doing, and they were not maneuvered by others, directed by others…
As you quoted Sahir Ludhianvi in one of your other messages…
“ले दे के अपने पास फ़क़त इक नज़र तो है
क्यूँ देखें ज़िंदगी को किसी की नज़र से हम”
But, yes, there can be the possibility, as you too beautifully expressed
लम्हों ने खता की थी सदियों ने सजा पाई
Here, the example of the fate of Veer and Zaara from the movie Veer-Zaara can be a perfect example. However, it was their decision and they stood on it. To ‘sazaa’ nahin ye to ‘mazaa’ hai.
And, here, I would quote what you quoted from Nida Fasli,

गरज-बरस प्यासी धरती पर फिर पानी दे मौला,
चिड़ियों को दाने, बच्चों को, गुड़धानी दे मौला।
फिर मूरत से बाहर आकर, चारों ओर बिखर जा,
फिर मंदिर को कोई मीरा दीवानी दे मौला।
दो और दो का जोड़ हमेशा चार कहाँ होता है,
सोच समझ वालों को थोड़ी नादानी दे मौला।

The decisions we make can never be ‘sane’ as such at times; we never know whether what we are choosing will bear fruit or not, but we are choosing because that is what we want.
However, the main thing is we must respect our decision; our decision of choosing a life partner, a career, etc.
Like, a girl might be fat, ugly or dull for others, but the same girl can be the most beautiful girl for her husband. So, we got to respect our decisions, and that is what life is! There is nothing good or bad at times; it is just what makes us happy and we live with it.
And, once again, your belief in ‘Aparimit Urja’ that we have , constantly reminds us of our power, the inner strength that we can channelize.
“To strive, to seek , to find and not to yield.’

It was the realization of this energy that drove Joseph Conrad to start learning English at the age of 21 and write the masterpieces like ‘Lord Jim’ and ‘The Heart of Darkness.’

It is this realization that is guiding the contemporary write ‘Jhumpa Lahiri’ to foray into Italian language after having written the masterpieces like ‘Namesake’ and “The Low Lands,’ to name a few.
And, regarding your message of how a ‘retired’ person is always looking for a purpose in life, there are people who never retire, or rather, they choose to be a freelancer. For instance, Chetan Bhagat says he dislikes being settled in life. So, what if we are constantly unsettled in life, and always striving to do something lofty! What if we are driven by free-will rather than the norms of the society; what if we choose to not get the ‘security’ that a fix income provides!
There are few of us who would do that- who have the power to reject a routine life….Here I would provide the example of RK Narayan who became one of the finest writers, after rejecting the idea of being a government teacher. Then, there are others…
Most of us lack this courage. However, there are people who realize the ‘Amarimit Urja’ that they have and achieve wonders- Om Puri, Nawazzudin, etc. are few examples from the film industry.
Here, I would also like to include the quote of Tony A Gaskins Jr.
“If you don’t build your dream
Someone else will hire you to help build theirs.”
Thus, we must have dreams and work towards their fulfilment, while having confidence in our ability to make decisions and our unlimited energies!
So, we should stick to our choices and always respect our decisions- even if they don’t bear us good results at times. We must not indulge in self-pity as you categorically stated mam.
And, your others podcast messages too are life-changing and uplifting. It feels great to be a part of your ‘kafila’ as you quoted Sultanpuri
‘हम अकेले ही चले थे जानिब-ए-मंजिल मगर, लोग साथ आते गए और कारवाँ बनता गया।’

Keep on inspiring us!
Regards
Sachin

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